Captain Reverend Mother

  • Losing at Life to Win

    Losing at Life to Win

    In a world obsessed with winning, the board game “Life” reveals a deeper truth: the most faithful lives are shaped not by success, but by surrender, resilience, and love.

  • Resurrection… Now what?

    Resurrection… Now what?

    A post-Easter reflection on resurrection, renewal, and spring holidays like Passover, Easter, and Nowruz through a modern, spiritual lens.

  • For Valentine’s Day: A Love Letter to My Friend

    For Valentine’s Day: A Love Letter to My Friend

    A love letter to a friend aching for companionship. On a day made for couples, this letter remembers other forms of love, tender, real, and just as holy.

  • The Move: Making Big Change with Less than Perfect Grace

    “[T]he Children of Israel had to wander in the desert before they reached the Promised Land. And despite all the manna and tambourines, that desert period was a total mess.”

  • Out of This Nettle…

    I wish for a world…strong enough to embrace ever-widening worlds of joy and knowledge and competence, rather than retreating to ever smaller and seemingly safer spaces.

  • Home as a Transitive Verb

    We home each other. We create for one another that essential spark of presence and recognition that allows our brains to know: this is where my heart is; this is where I belong; this is home.

  • Remembering Mom

    “She attended well and faithfully to a few worthy things.”

  • On Men, Male, and Masculinity

    Where—in our wider culture—is the space for men to own their vulnerabilities, to own their feelings of anxiety, fear, grief, and loss?

  • Delivering Our Children: A Mothers’ Day Reflection

    …behind our individual families are infinitely larger forms of connectedness and belonging

  • Remembering Pop

    Eulogy for my father, Lester “Les” Eugene Kane (July 1, 1934 – January 15, 2015). Originally delivered on Saturday 07 February 2015 at Glueckert Funeral Home, Arlington Heights, IL. My father was hard-working yet easy-going, soft-spoken and an impeccable dresser, fastidious, witty, and handsome. He was born in 1934 in Fairfield, Iowa, the…